I work in the computer lab in the SWKT (a building on campus) and one of my coworkers challenged me to give a cute guy my number; a bold move which he thought would confirm my other stories of being quite bold with boys. Of course, with my competitive nature I had to do something about it, even though I wasn't necessarily thinking clearly of the consequences. So I ended up writing him a note that said:
'Hey my name is Jessie! I think you're super nice and pretty cute and I would love to go on a date with you. If you're single, here's my number. Do you want to be my friend? Check yes or no.'
And of course I put a box for him to check (I hope you get the reference). On the front of the note I put:
'Hey I just met you...'
So I went over to his computer and gave it to him. I figured there were two options for this outcome: 1- he would just put in his headphones and walk out without saying anything, or 2- he would talk to me about the pretty forward note that I just handed him. He had to pass my desk on the way out of the lab. Anyways, he ended up coming up to my desk and asking me if I really wanted him to check the box. I asked him if he had heard the country song and he said he hadn't so I sang the chorus for him:
Do you love me? Do you want to be my friend? And if you do,
Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand, if you want to.
I think this is how love goes-
Check Yes or No.
Spontaneously bursting into song is not an uncommon occurrence for me. I sing quite often--practically anywhere and everywhere. We continued conversation and then he simply told me he was dating someone.... Ah crap...... Kind of an awkward moment...... But I asked him if we could still be friends and he said of course! So I'm a little bit humiliated, but frankly I'm really glad he had the guts to say something. Most guys probably would have just avoided the situation and walked out. And the next week he still came into the lab and we had a pleasant conversation about music and iPods. And it wasn't awkward at all. I'm grateful for those guys who can embrace awkward, flattering situations, and then continue to treat girls with respect and dignity. This was a pretty bold moment and I've learned that this guy could handle it.
So a few weeks ago a new semester started and once again I was working in the lab and guess who came in? The same guy! Needless to say I actually apologized for this bold and awkward situation that I had put him in. I think I had too much pride in being bold and I'm a little embarrassed by it. I've definitely been humbled since then and I'm grateful for this kind fellow who continues to be a kind friend to me.
I'm learning that there are different ways to being bold and beautiful. But I think confidence is key when you understand and accept your weaknesses.